Beyond
the Stigma
If you suspect your child is at immediate risk for suicide, dial or text 988 to speak with the suicide and crisis lifeline 24/7.
Together, let’s reframe the conversation on children’s mental health.
Parenting is incredibly rewarding, but let’s face it, it’s tough too. As caregivers, you pour your heart and soul into giving your kids everything they need to succeed, including love and support for their physical and mental health.
Sometimes, though, our kids might struggle in ways that aren’t immediately obvious. That’s why it’s important to have the tools to recognize the difference between everyday stress and more serious challenges they might be dealing with.
Learn more about how to spot signs of growing challenges in your child’s mental health and find resources for additional help.
Brought to you by the University of Iowa College of Education’s Scanlan Center for School Mental Health. Learn more about how the Scanlan Center is enhancing the well-being of Iowa’s schools, students, and educators here.
Making Sense Of Stress
When we experience upset feelings or observe it in another person, it’s common to chalk it up to “stress.” But not all stress looks alike.
Stress exists on a continuum; at the far end of it is crisis, something a lot more serious. Popular press and social media tell us too often that our children and teens are more depressed and/or more anxious than ever. Anxiety and depression are both diagnostic terms that do not always accurately represent how our children are feeling.
How To Respond
Your child is experiencing challenging emotions. How do you respond?
Listen actively. Hear them when they speak and demonstrate your willingness to understand.
Try these conversation starters:
What do you find to be helpful when you are upset or stressed?
Are there things I can do to support you when you feel upset or stressed?
Who can you talk to when you have these feelings?
Are you thinking about suicide or self-harm?
Be careful not to minimize their feelings. Have you ever said “well at least you don’t…” or “when I was your age…”? Respond instead with phrases that validate their feelings and express empathy and sympathy, e.g., “I’m glad you shared that with me” or “It’s okay to feel (emotion).”
How To Help
- Seeking out therapy or talking with a mental health provider
- Need help finding a Iowa-based mental health provider or finding a therapist? Visit Welltrack Connect.
- Their parent or caregiver talking with the child’s pediatrician about their concerns.
- Their parent or caregiver talking to the child’s teacher, school counselor, or other trusted adult in the school to let them know what is going on and to help consider opportunities to further support the child in the school setting.
Stories From Iowa Families
Read on for stories of Iowa families changing the conversation around mental health and #NurturingHealthyMinds.
@itsmrfinn Mental Health in our schools is a necessity to keep at the forefront of our conversations. Our friends at The Scanlan Center for School Mental Health are doing awesome work to help! Let's talk about it! *In partnership with The Scanlan Center for School Mental Health and The University of Iowa* #mentalhealthinourschools #educationmatters #mentalhealtheducation #teaching #musiceducator #education ♬ original sound - Mr. Finn
Feel free to use the following questions to help assess what your child is experiencing.
What signs or challenges have you noticed regarding your child’s mental health?
My child has expressed feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or worthlessness.
My child frequently complains of physical symptoms like headaches, stomachaches, or other pains without a clear medical cause.
My child’s academic performance has changed, e.g., a sudden decline in grades or lack of interest in school.
My child has started to withdraw from social activities, spending more time alone, and avoiding interactions with friends and family.
My child has expressed feelings of being overwhelmed, anxious, or worried about various aspects of life.
My child’s routines or self-esteem has changed, e.g. trouble sleeping, changes in appetite/eating behavior/relationship with food, or negative body image.
My child has expressed thoughts of self-harm, suicide, or other signs of self-destructive behavior.
Resources to Download / View
Scanlan Center Resources for Parents / Caregivers
Where To Go If You Need Help
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
- Call 988
- 988lifeline.org
- Español: 988lifeline.org/es/home
- Deaf and Hard of Hearing, use your preferred relay service, dial 711 then 988, or 988lifeline.org/help-yourself/for-deaf-hard-of-hearing.
- Call 911
- Iowa Mobile Crisis
- Take your child to the closest emergency department
- The Crisis Text Line
- Text HOME to 741741
- crisistextline.org
- Your Life Iowa
- Call 855-581-8111; Text 855-895-8398
- yourlifeiowa.org
- Iowa Crisis Service Resources
- National Human Trafficking Hotline
- Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233); Text “START” to 88788
- thehotline.org
- National Sexual Assault Hotline
- Call 800-656-HOPE (4673)
- rainn.org/resources
- The Trevor Lifeline
- Call 1-866-488-7386; Text START to 678-678
- thetrevorproject.org/get-help
- Veteran’s Crisis Line
- Call 988 and Dial 1; Text 838255
- veteranscrisisline.net
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Together, let’s reframe the conversation on children’s mental health.
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